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Hilary in CA: “Happy life, not a wife”

Hilary Jacobs, 50, thought she’d married the love of her life. The school psychologist was living her dream with two beautiful children and her perfect home in Claremont, CA. But her life changed at 2 am on Thanksgiving morning, 2021, two months before her 12th anniversary. Here’s the story: “Weread more

Case Study Angst

Lisa Rose of Southern CA says: “After my divorce, I felt an immediate sense of freedom that made me quite giddy!”

How long were you married before you began thinking about getting divorced? 18 years Why did you want to leave? There were many “reasons,” but the overarching answer is that we were in a negative cycle that was not improving. How did your spouse feel about your decision? His feelings about getting divorcedread more

Case Study Abandonment

Still Growing of Florida says, “I loved my spouse and wanted to stay together. But in reality, the foundation of our relationship had crumbled.”

“I was married for three years before I began thinking about getting divorced,” says Still Growing, who explains that he loved his spouse and wanted to stay with her. “But in reality, the foundation of our relationship had crumbled. We were headed down different paths, and parting ways was for theread more

Case Study Adultery

AM of DC says: “The next time around, I’d pay better attention to the signs and communicate more. I realize now that it’s ok to argue. I always avoided arguing in my marriage and instead shut down and gave in. So we never addressed the issues.”

She was married for 2 years when AM of Washington, DC found out her spouse had committed adultery.  “I did not discuss divorce with him until 10 years later, but the first time it crossed my mind was after the first time he cheated.” When she finally decided she wantedread more

Case Study Adultery

VV says, “I had no plans to leave my wife — until she had a torrid affair with a fireman. And then, I knew I had no choice.”

VV says: Married for 12 years before thinking about getting divorced, VV shares that he had no plans to leave his wife — until she had a torrid affair with a fireman. “After that, she had no problem with me leaving as she thought she was in love with him. Whenread more

Case Study Angst

Paul of Paris says, “I didn’t want my marriage to end. But now that it has, my life has not changed. I’m just more alone.”

Paul says: “I didn’t want my marriage to end,” explains Paul, who thought he was happily married for 6 years until his divorce in 2010. “She wanted to separate. It took 6 or 8 months to finalize it, maybe more. I didn’t see it coming. I was in love. It wasread more

Case Study Abuse

Chris of Washington, DC says: “I didn’t want to leave, but I needed to — not just for my own safety, but for our mutual safety.”

“I was married for 6 years before I began thinking about getting divorced,” shares Chris of Washington, DC. “I think she was both relieved and devastated when I finally asked for it. I actually think she was preparing to do the same thing and preferred to do it on herread more

Case Study Adultery

DDM of Virginia says, “I did not want our marriage to end, even after I found out my wife was in love with someone else.”

For 14 years, DDM felt like he was in a loving, stable marriage. Then, in November of 2014 he discovered his wife was having an affair. “I did not want our marriage to end, even after I found out my wife was in love with someone else. I wanted toread more

Case Study Addiction

Kimberly from Long Beach, CA says, “Despite his drinking, I put so much time, love and energy into our 9-year marriage that I really wanted it to work out.”

For five years, Kimberly contemplated leaving her marriage, “because I felt that my spouse had checked out emotionally. He was drinking too much. Much too much. And while I knew that was a big problem, I knew that there was something deeper going on inside of him. The way itread more

Case Study Abuse

Brandy says, “I am a survivor of domestic violence. I will never again be anyone’s victim.”

October 2020: My name is Brandy. I am 42 years old. My history of abuse is a long and complicated one. I was the victim of domestic violence from multiple partners for most of my adult life, beginning at age 18. My last incident of domestic violence occurred at age 32.read more